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Unfollow, unfriend, block: Is social media tearing us apart?

By Mikay­la Bun­nell | Uni­ver­si­ty of Con­necti­cut  
Decem­ber 27, 2024

Like most Amer­i­cans, the first thing Jaimie Harnois did when she woke up in her Uni­ver­si­ty of Con­necti­cut dorm room on Wednes­day, Nov. 6, 2024 was to check the results of the pres­i­den­tial elec­tion.  

The next thing? She went on Insta­gram and unfol­lowed any­one who was cel­e­brat­ing Don­ald Trump’s win. These peo­ple, she said, not only vot­ed against her pre­ferred can­di­date – they vot­ed against her as a woman.  

“You can’t vote against me and want to be my friend,” Harnois said. She pulled up an Insta­gram post from account @mikemaeshiro which read: “‘We can dis­agree and still be friends’ DOES NOT apply to racism, sex­ism, homo­pho­bia or trans­pho­bia.”  

Tak­ing a stand against oppos­ing view­points by unfol­low­ing or block­ing those who post such view­points has become the newest trend on social media. A poll pub­lished by the Uni­ver­si­ty of Chica­go Insti­tute of Pol­i­tics in May 2023 found that 38% of sur­veyed reg­is­tered vot­ers have “unfriend­ed or stopped fol­low­ing some­one on social media because of their polit­i­cal views,” in part because of Amer­i­cans’ increas­ing­ly neg­a­tive view of the oppos­ing par­ty.  

Ten years ago, Pew Research Cen­ter report­ed that 43% of Repub­li­cans had “very unfa­vor­able” opin­ions about Democ­rats; 38% of Democ­rats felt the same about Repub­li­cans. As of 2022 those num­bers had increased dra­mat­i­cal­ly. Pew Research found 62% of Repub­li­cans feel “very unfa­vor­able” about Democ­rats; 54% of Democ­rats feel the same about Repub­li­cans.  

Seth Warn­er, an assis­tant pro­fes­sor of polit­i­cal sci­ence at UConn who stud­ies state and local pol­i­tics from a behav­ioral per­spec­tive, said while it seems that polar­iza­tion and social media have always been inter­twined, “It took [researchers] longer to find a link than you would’ve expect­ed.” 

Ear­ly social media research showed that “peo­ple were only look­ing for pol­i­tics if they want­ed it and that… the large major­i­ty of peo­ple on social media for non-polit­i­cal rea­sons were get­ting pret­ty bal­anced expo­sure,” he said.

With the recent rise of influ­encers and con­tent cre­ators, peo­ple are using social media as a form of enter­tain­ment rather than a way to keep up with friends.

“You’re pick­ing con­tent like you might’ve picked cable chan­nels in the past, except it’s more diverse,” Warn­er said. “[It gives] peo­ple who don’t care about pol­i­tics oth­er things to look at so they become less invest­ed and [gives] peo­ple who care about pol­i­tics more pol­i­tics to look at.”  

Only about 20% of social media users are extrem­ists, he said, but they are a loud minor­i­ty. Hyper-par­ti­san cre­ators tap into consumer’s emo­tions, know­ing that “mor­al­iza­tion [and] anger tend to be pret­ty strong emo­tion­al pulls,” Warn­er said. This is why reg­u­lar, infor­ma­tive news sto­ries are not going viral, but the aggres­sive, pro­fane posts are.  

For exam­ple, on X (for­mer­ly Twit­ter), NBC News’ post announc­ing that Don­ald Trump won the 2024 pres­i­den­tial elec­tion got 728 likes and 359 re-posts as of Nov. 7. A post by user @SydneyAneglaa say­ing, “If you vot­ed for Trump, don’t ever speak to me again and I’m deadass!” got 132,000 likes and 28,300 re-posts.  

Extreme posts – rife with angry, emo­tion­al lan­guage – gain the most trac­tion. This aggres­sive and emo­tion­al form of polar­iza­tion is called “affec­tive polar­iza­tion,” defined as “see­ing one’s oppo­nents as not only wrong on impor­tant issues, but also abhor­rent, unpa­tri­ot­ic, and a dan­ger to the country’s future,” accord­ing to a Sept. 2021 New York Uni­ver­si­ty Stern Cen­ter for Busi­ness and Human Rights report titled “Fuel­ing the Fire: How Social Media Inten­si­fies U.S. Polit­i­cal Polar­iza­tion – And What Can Be Done About It.”  

Affec­tive polar­iza­tion makes polit­i­cal com­pro­mise vir­tu­al­ly impos­si­ble. A way to com­bat this, Warn­er said, is to remind peo­ple our ide­o­log­i­cal dif­fer­ences are not as big as we think. He said it is impor­tant to remind Repub­li­cans that not every Demo­c­rat is a mem­ber of the LGBTQ+ com­mu­ni­ty and to remind Democ­rats that not every Repub­li­can is a mil­lion­aire, for exam­ple.  

But com­pro­mise and friend­ship are not impos­si­ble. UConn stu­dent Gret­tel Atter­ber­ry said she has many friends who have com­plete­ly oppo­site polit­i­cal opin­ions from her.

“At the end of the day, I was friends with them before I knew their polit­i­cal views,” Atter­ber­ry said. “I don’t talk about pol­i­tics with them that much because I know they have a dif­fer­ent view. I’ll be open about [talk­ing about pol­i­tics] but as soon as I hear they’re get­ting aggres­sive… I stop and change to a dif­fer­ent top­ic.”  

Atter­ber­ry says it is impor­tant to be open to hear­ing dif­fer­ent views.

“I try to keep it respect­ful and under­stand where they’re com­ing from,” she said. Atter­ber­ry acknowl­edged that that can be hard, espe­cial­ly regard­ing “stuff that real­ly hits home… like women’s rights and immi­gra­tion.” 

Many peo­ple are sim­ply not inter­est­ed in pol­i­tics. Meri­den res­i­dent Ahmed Her­nan­dez has friends with dif­fer­ent views than his own, but he isn’t pas­sion­ate enough to argue with them about it.

“I hon­est­ly don’t real­ly pay atten­tion,” Her­nan­dez said. “I’ll lis­ten and then drift off because I can’t real­ly keep a polit­i­cal con­ver­sa­tion going long.”